We Can Help You Out!
The 10 days in between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur are known as Asseret Yemei TShuva – the 10 days of repentance. These are observed in a number of ways but generally it is considered a good time to practice repentance. One can repent from one’s sins at any time, but it’s a particularly good time to do so because, as Maimonides noted quite well “‘Seek HaShem when He is to be found’ (Isaiah 55:6).” Now there are two types of sins, those against God, and those against your fellow man. Sins against God are forgiven when one repents, ie if you regularly use God’s name in vain for instance, once you expressly stop doing so, you’re forgiven for past transgressions. Sins against your fellow man however are a bit more complicated. Let’s say you talked trash about someone – you have to approach them directly, specify the sin and ask for forgiveness. As you can imagine, that can be a bit difficult.
Often times people, particularly at this time of the year, will come up to you and ask for your forgiveness for “any sin that I may have committed against you.” That’s a bit of a cop out if you ask me. How can there be repentance without acknowledgement of the sin? Both to yourself and to the person against whom the offence was committed? You have to confess in detail in order to properly receive forgiveness, otherwise where’s the repentance? And if you’ve caused any pecuniary damage to the person, they are entitled to compensation. It’s not as easy as “Oh, please forgive me for everything I may have advertently or inadvertently done to you.
But that process is difficult. Sometimes, you may have forgotten every sin you have ever committed against someone. For instance, think of all the times you gossiped about people you know for instance. And then when it comes to the big things, like deceit, theft or worse, just confessing to that alone is difficult enough. So we’re here to help you!
Please feel free to use the comment section below to anonymously confess whatever sin you’d like to. It won’t result in forgiveness but think of it as a practice run. After actually admitting to yourself that you have sinned, you might find it easier to confront the actual victim. You may confess anonymously – just put a fake name and email address in the comment form. It’ll be fun and therapeutic too! Go on. Give it a shot. I won’t judge you….