Granted, the 15th day of the Hebrew month of Av or Tu B’Av predates Christianity by 1,500 years but whatever…

The Mishna explains that on this day, which it calls one of Judaism’s most festive, Jewish maidens used to go out to the fields wearing borrowed white clothing – so as not to embarrass those who did not have fine garments of their own – and would say, “Young man, lift up your eyes and appreciate whom you are choosing [to marry]. Don’t look at our beauty. Instead, look at the family…”

Sounds like fun! Read up some more about it here. Thanks to Israel from JMatch for the link.

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    The point of my ignoring these “special” days stems from my interest in helping singles find a LIFE partner. Having a life partner means that you have someone to share your life with EVERY day of the year. And having a life partner means that you can grow together, maybe even have a family, and create a life where you can exemplify other values — such as loyalty, kindness, honesty, giving and sharing — in addition to love.

    So I challenge relationship-oriented singles to look beyond these special one day celebrations of love. Instead, search for the one with whom you can share thousands of days with. A whole life together always equals more than one or two Valentine’s Days. And a bunch of flowers.

  • Aw c’mon Janice. You have to admit that the notion of comely single Jewish women dressed in (borrowed) white clothing beckoning for their beloved makes for a rather compelling visual. No one does this anymore, instead we have parties organized by the nice boys but I kinda wish we had that whole field thing instead. Anything but yet another Jewish singles party ….